Routines and events

The first month of our stay was an experiment in adaptation. We had to situate ourselves geographically, everything from learning what to expect of the weather to finding the grovery stores and gas stations. We became familiar with the house and its features, making small modifications as we went (moving lamps, buying a dish drainer, etc.) The pets taught us to meet their needs.

Alongside the basic familiarization, we were also trying to make the most of our few months in Northern California. We registered for dance classes, went sightseeing all over the place -- Sacramanto, Lake Tahoe, San Francisco. We went to museums, the state capitol, parks, a play, the downtown art walk, film screening, wine tastings galore -- everything we saw advertised and could fit into our schedule. We volunteered and I joined the book club.

Part of keeping a busy pace was the time-limited opportunity for new experiences and part the need for social contact. Jim and I are well used to each other's company, but too much of a good thing is a definite risk in a situation like this. We now have acquaintances at our volunteer gigs (library and thrift store) whom we look forward to seeing, and the subtle comfort of familiar faces in stores.

I've mentioned some of our activities to C, the homeowner, and she was impressed by how much we are doing. It would probably be the same with anyone coming to live in our home. There's a tendency to pass up events close to home out of laziness and a sense that "We can do that any time." Perhaps we need to live our lives every day as if all opportunities are time-limited.